Friends Vs. Family------The better of the two

Friends VS Family- The better of the two

Family makes the first move, just like they do in the average child’s life, but friends are not far behind. Friendship gives family a damaging blow with their acceptance but family strikes back with constant support. It looks like a close one guys! Stay tuned to see who will win in this never ending battle of these two superpowers!

In all our lives we have two main spheres of socialization, our friends and our family. Both these groups tend to be equally important to us and are constantly at war for our attention. Is one group more important than the other? Some, or rather most might say that definitely your family is more important than your friends, because your family has been with you since the beginning of time. But in my opinion they both enjoy equal statures simply because your families are people who due to their blood relations with you, on some level have to accept you whereas your friends are just random people you happened to have met who like you because of you. They have been charmed and swept of their feet by nothing but your personality, or at least we’d like to believe that. I think it’s sad that we live in a society where friendships take a back seat.

Our relationships with our friends are treated as frivolous and expendable. It’s not uncommon for us to hear things like you can skip that out going with your friends and stay home with your family, after all your family is more important.

Now you also have to understand that your family too wants your time and attention and they believe that because you are related to them by blood and that they will always be there for you, they command more importance. They feel that friends come and go, but they will remain. They are strong believers that only they truly have your best interest at heart, no one else is capable at treating you the way they do. And I mean you can’t blame them, most families are strong protectors of their members. They support each other both financially and emotionally.

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What is more important, family or friends?

"I don't care about whose DNA recombined with whose. When everything goes to hell, the people who stand by you without flinching, they are your family." - Jim Butcher. 

Blood related or not, anyone who is your true supporter, your confidante, your 3 AM emergency contact, your wingman, your detector, your partner in crime, your true well-wisher, he/she is your 'person'. Your friend. Your family.

There are beautiful and close knit families, where the atmosphere at home is open, warm, relaxed, and friendly. Everyone is free to share what they want, without any judgement. On the other hand, I've seen broken homes, abusive relationships, mental torture, homes that look as grim and as severe as an army barrack during war. No one speaks to each other. Everyone stays in the same home yet leads different lives. It's eerie.

Some friends are like soulmates, who sometimes become as close as brothers and sisters and become your family. But, there are some who backstab at the first chance they get, who gossip behind your back, who have selfish motives, who are never there when you need them, and who can be absolutely vile to you, and break your trust.

My point is, there are good and bad families and good and bad friends. So, what matters is the kind of person you have in your life.

Anybody who loves you for who you are and has your back no matter what, is priceless. Embrace them, love them, cherish them, and never ever let them go!

Some people have the best of both worlds, where your family is like your friend, and your friends become your family. If you're one of those lucky few, understand that what you have is special. Don't take them for granted. Value those guardian angels in your life!



Let's be honest. Friends are not a forever thing. Friends argue, change, a lot of things can happen in a friendship and then it ends. It's sad but true, that happens every day. The relationship with your family can be hard too sometimes, but it tends to be longer.

Think about how many times does your friends betray you, and then the same about your family. Friends have disappointed you much more, am I wrong? It's probably a biological thing. The family should stay together to survive, it's easier if you are all together.

But as I see it, there is a reason for all that things apart from the biological reason. Family has seen you growing up your whole life, and that makes a huge difference.

To sum up, I would say that friends are a very important thing in life, and of course they matter. But in the most of the cases, family is the most beautiful thing that you can have.
 


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My Second Family: My College Companion, The Team Burger

April Rose Sapanza

Angelita Espanola

Robert Esparagoza

John Alexander Calixtro

April Jea Farren

Elysa Claire Arguelles

Christine Mae Absalon

John Paul Gimotea

Cheryn Mae Mateo

Mary Christine Bado

Shela Mae Talagtag (me)

My eternal friends

Forever is a very long time. Sometimes we have a friend and we sense that our souls are very closely connected. We know that the connection is above time and space. We know that wherever we are in our lives we will always remain friends. Even if we do not see each other for years we are able to pick up right where we left off. This is what people mean when they say friends forever.

 

 

Forever Friends

True friends are hard to find,

but there you are you came into my life.

You came to me in a perfect time,

I'm so happy you're a friend of mine.

We've been together for so long,

in a fantastic place where we belong.

We shared the mysteries of our life,

laughter and tears are seen in our eyes.

You're with me and I'm with you,

you comfort me and I LOVE YOU.

A part of me becomes part of you,

true friendship I've found in you.

Now it's time to say goodbye,

tears of sadness keeps falling in my eyes.

So, please don't cry my darling friend,

Coz our friendship will never end.

Yes it's true we'll be apart,

Coz I'm here and you there.

With you my friend I want to tell,

whatever happens we'll be FRIENDS FOREVER!

My Second Family: My Bestfriends

Irene Dela Cruz

Irish Villanueva

Riezza Arguelles

Renela Medianero

Shela Mae Talagtag(me)

Best Friends 

Best Friends means different things to different people. Some insist that you can have only one best friend. Others assert that they have best friends for different aspects of their personalities. Whatever the precise definition, your best friend is the person who gets you. They understand who you are and what you are saying. The greatest distance cannot separate best friends. You will always feel a kinship with them, and be able to instantly continue the friendship even after not talking for many years.

 Best Friend

You are my best friend; you belong in my heart,

We go through ups and downs, but still nothing can tear us apart.

I know you as a sister, and I will always care,

Love, respect, and trust are the things we share.

I know you as a person, I especially know you as a friend,

Our friendship is something that will never end.

Right now, this second, this minute, this day,

Our sisterhood is here, is here to stay.

My friendship with you is special and true,

When we are together, we stick like glue.

When I'm in the darkness that need some light,

When you're by my side, I know things are all right.

Our friendship is so strong, it breaks down bars,

Our friendship is also bright, like the sun and the stars.

If we were in a competition for friendships, we would get a gold,

Because responsibility and cleverness are the keys we hold.

I met you as a stranger, took you as a friend,

I hope our long friendship will never end.

Our friendship is like a magnet, it pulls us together,

Because no matter where we are, our friendship will last forever!

Our "Baby-Bunso"-------Our Angel

Dear Shan,

Baby, you were an angel sent from God. You were our joy, our laughter, and our stress reliever. You didn’t know how much I thank God for sending you here. Every time, I am going home, ate was so excited seeing you and your smile. I love you, baby. Ate’s going to be successful just for you. 

An open letter to Shem

Dear Shem,

I didn’t hate you; I just want all the best for you. Every time I made you cry, it is not a scold from your older sister but an advice and a lesson. Of all the painful words I have said, I’m sorry. I may not be this vocal but I am so proud of you. I love you, David. Keep up the good work. J

An open letter to Shaira

Dear Shang,

            Do you still remember all the bad days we had when we were just kids? We don’t talk. We don’t laugh. We don’t play. Indeed, we are enemies. Remember all the bad words I have said unto you? They were like daggers, aren’t they? Of course, you’ll get hurt. That’s what I want. You were broke and you cried. I am the eldest, I am your superior. You must follow.

           But still, you’ve never hated me. I guess, I’m a total jerk for not loving you back. I guess, I’m your total opposite, I am the bad one and you were the good one.

            Remember that curse I’ve thrown up to you? Please, don’t take those words, seriously. I say those words for I am mad. That time, I still haven’t known the worth of you as my sister. That time, I still haven’t known the feeling of having a sister. That time, I was being blinded by my hate. That time, I still didn’t know how to love.

            We became best friends, and you say that I am the best ate in the world. I cried. Those innocent smiles gave me an unusual sensation. It feels so good that it can’t be true. Am I really worth for this love? I guess, am not.

           Time had passed and you were still beside me. You’ve never left me in all my good times and bad times. We laugh. We learn. We grew. We dream. Today until tomorrow and eternity, I’ll always love you, my best buddy.

Sentiments of the Unborn

It was dim. It was dark. And yet; it feels so warm. Where am I? Ah, I was on my mother’s womb.

 

 

October, 1996

Hey, mom! I am your first baby. Aren’t you happy having me? If not, then, why are you crying? Where is dad? Did he make you cry? Don’t worry mommy, I have loved you, unconditionally.

Two weeks later,

Mom, I haven’t seen the world. I am wondering what it would like. Dad will give us a tour right? We’ll be going to play and eat all the foods that we want. We’ll be going to the city and buy all the toys that I want. We’ll be going to the beach for our family bonding. We’ll be going to the church and we will serve God, happily. I’m so excited to see and feel the world, Mom.

I’m just wondering when I will be seeing it. I can’t wait.

One week later,

Mom, you seemed so happy. Did something good happen? I guess there is. I am glad that you are smiling. Mom, please tell Dad that I want to see the world---I want to see your smile.

Three days letter,

Mom, are feeling you feeling pain, because I am. I am still breathing, right? I will be going to live. But it never seems that I have the chance. I am holding on Mom. So please, don’t lose hope. Mom, where is dad? I see that he is right beside you. Good thing, for I know that I can’t hold my promise. Mom, please tell Dad to be strong, that you need him, and you love him. Even if things goes wrong, Dad, please stay on Mommy's side. Never leave her, like you always do. I want to hold on but I just can’t. I’m sorry. Thank you for giving me life. Goodbye Mom and Dad, I will miss you. I will be your unborn angel, forever.

An Open Letter to My Parents

Dear mama and papa,

Did you ever hate me? I guess not. Of course, I am your daughter, you cannot hate me. Remember all the bad times we had? All the headaches I gave to you? You only beat me a belt and I hate you for doing that; and yet you still cared for me. You see me crying, and you asked for forgiveness. I ignored you for I hate the both of you. I hate you for giving me care. I hate you for giving me love. Remember when I ignored all your injunctions? You scolded me but you still say that you were sorry. Remember when I’ve got 79 grades in math? You became disappointed and yet you embolden me that I must try my best for the next term. Remember when I’ve got a boyfriend? You slapped me and yet you also say that you were sorry. Remember when I’ve got sick? You scolded me for I am reckless; and yet you exerted all your efforts to help me healed. Of all these absurd things I have done, why didn’t you abandon me? Why didn’t you just leave me outside our home and watched as I am dying? I had hated you for too long and yet you still loved me from aback? Why? I still had got no idea.

Time had passed, and still I had hated you. I’ve got no idea why. Even me, myself cannot figure out. Maybe I want to try living on my own. I want to try how cruel the world was having no one. It’s a lame but I want to be independent. I don’t want to be someone who will be crying for the one who had left. I don’t want love for it only gives expeditious ecstasy. I don’t want care for people will only be used to it. I also don’t want hate but my burdens gave that kind of sensation. I had hated you for such a lame reason. I’m sorry mama and papa.

 Remember all the efforts you gave was still worth it. I am now a third year college student; and I have changed. All the love you gave when I was still a baby until then, was still perceive. Of all the advises and sacrifices you have exerted, I become a better woman. All the bad things I have done, I thank you for not leaving me, for not abandoning me and leaving in the dark. Of all the cares you have flaunt, I have learned my lesson. I ain’t an island to be alone but I am a creation and I was born to be forsaken. Thank you mama and papa, for giving me this wonderful life. I love you.

All about my blog

Family isn't defined only by blood or by surname; it is defined by commitment and by love. In this blog let me share my life to you, of how I am being contented and happy having my family as my greatest strengths as well as my weakness. Of how my family changed the sentiment of my life. Of how I am being loved by them and how I had love them back. And of course how my second family(friends) help me developed and become a better human.

I want the whole wide world to comprehend of why I am proud of them. I want them to know how lucky I am having them in my life. I want them to know that they are the reasons of my struggle and the reasons why I am laughing out loud. I want them to know that they are my inspirations of why I am blogging this.

Someday, my child or my grandchild might read this, I want them to know how I have striven for my life to surpass all the upcoming struggles. Let's say that I want to inspire them and know the worth of having a family. Of how lucky they would be having kinship in life. Of how colorful their life could be having a companion. No matter if they are not their real family as long as there is love and commitment they would still be happy.

Who am I?

Who I really am? I don’t know how to start my words describing who I really am. Maybe, I should start by introducing in a name that was given on me; I am Shela Mae S. Talagtag. In my 18 years of existence to be exact, I have been this kind to other people. I had never disobeyed my parents though it values my greatest dream---to be an architect. I have been this trying hard not to fail. I am breadwinner of our family and they expect higher success from me. Of course, I wouldn’t fail for they are my greatest irony. They are my greatest strengths when I fall and also my weakness in my everyday story. I am who I am because of them. I am me in my all aspects of living and no man could judge me. I’ve got flaws and millions of imperfections but that is in my favor. I am here to learn from my flaws and not to live from their judgement eyes. I am into success and no man can breach it.